God is often used as a scapegoat or tool to validate failures, loses and gains. Religion removes the accountability from the things we engage in that we know are wrong. I’ve been judged by quite a few people. Most of whom claim to be Christian or apart of some other religious affiliation. The reason I was often given was that I was being “judged” based on the values in the Bible. Mind you, they became a “Christian” merely a few years prior to and what they were choosing to “judge” me on was absent of religion. Doesn’t the bible say judge not, less Ye be judged? Moving right along. I laughed because I knew things about them before they “changed their lives” and I chose to never hold that against them. I posed a question asking them if they did not use the Bible to validate their opinions toward me, where would their “judgement” lie. They had no direct answer and searched for a verse to back up their rationale. Needless to say, that conversation ended along with that relationship.
We blame “God” for our misfortunes instead of being accountable for our actions. If you know that you did not deserve the promotion at your job, why say that God has something better for you? If you do not or did not do the work to get the things you desire, you will NOT attain them. Simple as that. The Bible clearly states that faith without works is dead. As simple as it may be, that verse even gets manipulated so that individuals can rationalize their behavior. Human beings have an absolute discomfort for the unknown. We are intelligent creatures that have to make sense of the world around us even if what we wish to learn makes no sense. In doing so, we make constructs up that comfort our poor decision making so that we don’t feel bad about the what, why and how. Things don’t work out because they don’t work out. Is there a possibility that you did or ignored something that ultimately prevented your success? If we honestly dissect our problems we will find the source is often ourselves.
Prayer is a tool that can be used within as well as outside of religion. I use prayer for mental peace, comfort, spirituality and clarity. I don’t know if I have honestly received any answers from my prayers, but I have gained peace of mind as well as a stronger reliance on my inner intuition. Prayer helps me to rely on myself to make sound decisions. It settles my mind and returns me to a place of solace. I pray to “God”. But much like the majority of you guys reading, this concept of “God” was told to me.
As I’ve gotten older, by way of my experiences and learning, I’ve adjusted some of my views as well as values. My studies caused me to see some of the negative effects that religion creates. Division being the most apparent and detrimental. In order to understand the world around us, we put EVERYTHING into groups. Socioeconomic status, race, color, education, sexual orientation and religion or just a few constructs or groups we place each other in I effort to exclude. In church, I was taught that “God” is just and fair. According to Webster, just is defined as being without bias and/or preferences. The things I witnessed outside of the words I was taught in church supporting the ideal of a just “God” had shown me otherwise. Religions preach acceptance and exclusion at the same time. People that do not share the same beliefs are labeled “nonbelievers” and are simply not included. I belonged to a church for the majority of my life. When my circumstances caused me to make some life changes, I was excluded. No longer being invited to events or asked to be apart, I knew that my “tie” or affiliation had been broken. I was now a member of the out-crowd. Hypocrisy.
Church or church like environments are comfortable because you are in the presence of likeminded individuals. Imagine the discomfort you feel when you are in the presence of a group where you are the only one like yourself. Questioning religion, beliefs or values gives individuals that same sense of aloneness. I felt it when I was searching for answers to end my constant pain. People will ostracize you without hesitation as soon as you ask the question why. When I did ask for clarity, I was reminded how I was not supposed to question God or the Bible. I was only trying to make sense of what I was reading. How can I agree with something I don’t understand? In an educational setting, we are encouraged to ask questions to make sense of information that we obtain. In religion, we are told to accept what we are given in fear of negative repercussions.
Yes, I’ve had my share of difficulties both when I was very active in my Christian beliefs as well as when I was transitioning to a different way of thinking. It is inate to shift blame. Test this theory by asking a child why they chose to do something. Nothing is ever my 8 year old’s fault. I’ve never blamed my unfortunate circumstances on “God” or the lack of “God’s” presence. Instead, I looked critically at what I did or did not do that caused me to experience the discomfort I was in. “God” did not make me choose a volatile relationship, I did. “God” did not make me become pregnant outside wedlock, I did. “God” did not make me give up on dreams I designated for myself, I did. “God” created me with the abilities to achieve the desires of my heart if I do the work. My belief in my destiny coupled with my relentless drive, makes me believe I can move mountains. And I have.
I live worry free because I choose to. I choose to turn my worry into work in effort to change the unfavorable aspects of my life. Even the most wealthiest person who believes in “God” will tell you that they worked their butts off to get what they have. Prayer is merely the place where they found emotional as well as mental peace. Without doing the work, they would have nothing but their prayers. Again, I’m not arguing if there is a “God” or what is right or wrong to believe. I’m simply requesting that people stop blaming “God” for their mistakes and take responsibility for their own actions.
No one says Thank “God” for struggles until they have made it out of them and are far removed from those situations. I was the opposite. I said thank you while I was there because I learned some important things about myself as well as the people I involved myself with.
EVERYTHING we do in this life is a choice. The outcomes to follow are a result of what we do or failed to do. God is not a master puppeteer, pulling strings to help some while hurting others. He’s too real for that. ✌🏾️